8 Classic Traits of a Narcissist

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#2 Constantly Demanding Attention and Validation

One of the most popular traits of narcissists is their constant demand for attention. This is usually portrayed as this one person who stands in the center of a group and everybody listens to what they are saying, like it’s the most important thing in the world.

But this is not often the case. This constant quest to get your attention might manifest as chasing you around the apartment, asking you to find a random book they have lost, or talking to you nonstop in order to get your attention.

A narcissist only considers validation when it comes from other people. Even so, it makes little difference. The urge for affirmation in narcissists acts like a pipe. You pour out encouraging words, and they simply run through the other side and disappear into the void. 

When there isn’t a constant flow of praise and admiration to keep a narcissist’s sense of superiority inflated, they begin to feel kind of uneasy. It’s not enough to receive compliments occasionally. Narcissists seek out those who will feed their compulsive need for affirmation because they require ongoing fuel for their ego.

These connections tend to be rather one-sided. The focus is always on what the “admirer” can do for the narcissist rather than the other way around. What can you provide for them? Additionally, the narcissist views any interruption in the admirer’s focus or decrease in their admiration as a betrayal.


      • Of course, I’m sure you actually meant to describe the previous Resident & his gaggle of grifters & junior blood-sucking leeches that he thinks of as his “Trumpian crime family!”

        • im not for either one …but i would prefer a guy who likes woman as opposed to a pedophile….who also has a crime family…

      • KAREN..oops I meant carol 😂. It’s hard to read a factual article like this since it seems to be describing you too!!!! Or is it just your lack of education AND your desire to be relevant. Make sure to keep sending the millionaire your money to help pay for all his lawyers. At least he can’t say (or knowing the orange cheeto from my many years living in Manhattan he will) say it’s to build the wall!

  1. Dealing with a narcissist is exhausting. I only put up with because I am maternal grandmother to his very young son. God gives me the power and correct words to protect my family. God will have His vengeance with this man who does not provide for his innocent child. I am God’s vessel and through HIM I am more than a conqueror. This narcissist will bow his knee to the Lord God Almighty.

    • Narcissists and the truer they are to the “ideal” narcissist — the more difficult is is to deal with them … its a tough disorder to be subjected to … they are maybe not doing it intentionally — or maybe so … i think there is a spectrum and a tad of narcissism in many of us …. its too bad when innocents are involved … the child … who is innocent but will develop maybe less than innocent qualities as they live in this world … I dont like the images of vengeance and that this person be conquered by a mortal or god even …. that isnt a loving god … but i am sure that god will eradicate this if its evil … if god does exist … i do believe in some creator as man is very vain if he thinks that man created all this … or big bang …
      i will send prayers for this man finally coming to terms with his affect on others and his child and i will send prayers for the child for protection and wisdom to survive this …. and prayers for you for understanding of it all … wish your family and friends well

  2. It’s interesting to know the breakdown of a personality like this. I have known someone with all these characteristics and it’s not fun to live with them. They should be seeing a good psychiatrist but they will not recognize they need help. As is pointed out, it’s always someone else who is at fault.

  3. It appears you are describing both Biden and Trump. But the press can see it in only one, despite how clearly evident.

  4. Every single one of these traits describe Donald J. Trump, to a T. Almost as if he is the model for narcissistic personality disorder. And yes, he could become President again….

    • I think if he wasn’t always having to prove hisself the majority of the time he would feel as compelled to do so.. I mean give the guy a break..

  5. Donald Trump is not just an ordinary narcissist. He is what is defined as a “malignant narcissist”, which is when the narcissism is coupled with sociopathy, or criminal tendencies. He’s a very disturbed human being with a serious psychiatric disability who got to be President!

    • No disrespect intended, but I believe you may be mistaken. The traits you see also are found in people with high-functioning Aspergers. I believe DT is suffering from Asperger’s symptoms. The way he walks, facial expressions, hair, and clothing all point to this condition. People with Aspergers have no problem saying they are really good at something, so his bragging and boisterous behavior that lacks tact are also symptoms.

  6. Your description of a narcissist is exactly what the people who voted for Donald J. Trump just love about him!
    He thinks he is the greatest human being ever born, and that is not a lie!
    He would be just like some of today’s parents, and if their children are on a sports team, would argue and maybe physically or verbally assault the coaches or referee’s during the match or game!!
    How can anyone think that this person is qualified or able to hold what is considered the most powerful position or office in the entire free World?
    Just think about this for a minute, he admires communist leaders and authoritarian leadership, Oh really and people want him back in office (Oval) again????

  7. Just ask Joe. He’s got all the answers. Dividing our country, relying on our enemies for energy, crime everywhere, runaway inflation, open border with fentanal everywhere and some allies going along with China which is another disaster for our country.

  8. You want a narcissist to “shut up” while blaming you for everything? Just call them a “NARCISSIST”….automatic silent treatment…..lol..

  9. my mom and my daughter are narcisists. They bothh brag about their accomplishments but actually have very low self esteem. Everything is everyone elses problem, they are at fault for nothing- everything someone elses fault. in my daughters case, i am raising one of her children. my daughter has a violent and sudden temper. My mother over exagerates everything- like when shes washing the dishes she counts the forks and spoons and plates etc. instard or washing the dishes she is exhausted because she had to do 21 forks and7 plates and all the frying pans (2) ten bowls etc. this is to make pne feel sorry for her. Believe me- they are no fun to live with.

  10. Trump may be a Narcissist OR have many of those tendencies apparent in his initiatives of his person. Still, most of us humans self indulged to our own interests and prisms, including those who are Trump’s critics, have some Narcissistic tendencies, no matter occupation. Those who vote intelligently in this Republic form of democracy, vote the man’s proposed or actionable leadership policies and skill capabilities to do the country well; his/her personality, faults or prettiness notwithstanding.

  11. how sad it is that in today’s world we make everything political when our personal lives are falling apart as a result of other people’s behavior and our turning away from God. All politicians have to have a level of confidence that exceeds the citizens they serve. They have to be extremely confident and stand firm for what is right and wrong for the country. We need to pray for those who have a desire to serve this country. SERVE THIS COUNTRY. Not the global economy. Who preserve the constitution and more important turn back to acknowledging the one true GOD of the BIBLE who has abundantly blessed this nation.
    Narcissism is destructive not only to the narcissist but to those who are affected by their behavior. Best to pray and ask the LORD to give you wisdom on how to best respond to them and pray HE changes them. It is a spiritual war out there…

  12. Dealing with my daughter’s narcissistic boyfriend. It’s hurting my grandchildren and me. Oh yes it’s always everyone else is at fault except him. You can’t live with a narcissist in your life and try to keep your own sanity.

  13. We can’t all be at the front of the line. All of us must wait our turn. No one in that line is less considered than the other.

  14. My younger sister is the definition of a narcissists and is also executor over my parents trust. Of course she is daddy’s little girl and yeah for me. I have had to permanently distance myself from my family for self preservation and have been leaning on the lord in prayer to heal from the hurt that she has targeted me with for her self gain. The lord has blessed me by providing more than I need and it is a true tragedy and I truly feel sorry for her. I would not wish this scenario on anyone.


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