“You’re seeing your friends too often”

If they say this phrase, you should probably run. This is a huge red flag and is never a good sign. They say this to manipulate you and change your personality. This is ultimately a result of their low self-esteem and strong insecurities about you leaving them.

They fear that if you spend more time with your friends, they will probably tell you what they think about them, blowing up their disguise.

“Please. Let’s just focus on the good things”

A simple translation to this would be: the narcissist doesn’t want you to see the problems in the relationship. They don’t want you to see that they are manipulating you. 

This is a typical gaslighting statement, usually used by a partner to persuade you to overlook all of the red flags and mistreatment. They say this in order to manipulate your view of things.