1. They lie about lying
Is there such a thing as lying about lying? It sure is, and it’s actually more common than you might think. These people claim to never intentionally deceive someone.
The behavioral analytic interrogator has more than 30 years of experience in law enforcement, and he told me that typically, when someone claims they don’t lie, they’re lying.
Even though it’s OK for people to sprinkle a few white lies from time to time, he makes a distinction between white lies and open dishonesty.
Most of the time, it’s okay to stretch the truth if the consequences of being caught aren’t too bad, especially if you do that to protect someone you care about.
However, if you have proof that your partner is lying to you and refuses to admit it, things can quickly become complicated.
They might have a reason for doing so; maybe they want to protect you from something or they don’t know how to tell you.
But there’s also the other variant, in which they don’t pay attention to your feelings and don’t think of any repercussions. Whatever the reason might be, talk to them!
