The 9 Common Signs and How to Interpret Them
Here are nine common experiences that people often interpret as signs from a deceased loved one. For each one, we offer a small, actionable practice to help you connect with the experience in a grounded and personal way. Remember, the key is what feels true and comforting to you.
1. Vivid Dreams or Visitations
One of the most profound experiences people report is having an incredibly vivid and peaceful dream of their loved one. These are often different from typical dreams. They feel intensely real, logical, and are usually filled with a sense of peace and love. In a “visitation dream,” the loved one often appears healthy and happy, and they may offer a message of reassurance, telling you they are okay and that they love you. You may wake up with a lingering feeling of calm and certainty that you were truly with them.
It’s important to note that our sleep and dream patterns can change significantly during periods of grief. For a deeper understanding of the mechanics of dreaming, the Sleep Foundation offers valuable, evidence-based resources. Whether you see these dreams as spiritual visits or as your subconscious mind processing grief in a healing way, their power to comfort is undeniable.
Actionable Practice: Keep a dream journal by your bed. When you have a dream of your loved one, write down everything you can remember as soon as you wake up. Note the setting, their appearance, any messages shared, and most importantly, how the dream made you feel. This practice honors the experience and allows you to revisit the feeling of comfort it brought.
2. Finding Meaningful Objects (Like Coins or Feathers)
Finding a small, out-of-place object is a classic sign for many. Feathers, especially white ones, are often thought to be a sign of angelic presence or a hello from a loved one. Coins, particularly dimes, are another common sign. The question, what does it mean to find a dime, is one many people ask. A common belief is that dimes are a message of love and validation, a sign that your loved one is with you. Some traditions say it means they are letting you know you are valued and on the right path.
The significance often comes from the context. Finding a dime on the anniversary of a loved one’s passing, or right after you were thinking of them, can feel deeply meaningful. The specific object might also be personal—perhaps your father was an avid coin collector, or your grandmother loved birds. The meaning is not in the object itself, but in the connection you make in that moment.
Actionable Practice: When you find such an object, pause for a moment. Hold it in your hand and take a deep breath. Instead of asking “Is this a sign?”, try asking, “What memory or feeling does this bring up for me right now?” Allow it to be a simple, beautiful moment of remembrance and gratitude.
3. Familiar Scents
Have you ever suddenly caught the distinct scent of your loved one’s perfume, their favorite flowers, or the pipe tobacco they used to smoke, even when there is no physical source for the smell? This experience, known as clairalience or clear-smelling, is a powerful and evocative sign for many. Our sense of smell is strongly linked to memory, and a familiar scent can transport us back in time, bringing with it a flood of emotions and a strong sense of our loved one’s presence.
These scents often appear and disappear quickly, leaving you with a comforting feeling that your loved one just passed by to say hello. While there can be medical explanations for phantom smells, for those who experience this in the context of grief, it often feels like a gentle and unmistakable hug from the beyond.
Safety Cue: While often comforting, if you experience persistent unexplained smells that are unpleasant or troubling, it may be wise to mention it to your doctor, just to ensure there are no underlying health concerns.
4. Hearing a Special Song
Music connects us to our deepest emotions and memories. Hearing a significant song at just the right moment is a common and joyful sign for many people. It might be “your song” with your spouse playing on the car radio the moment you feel a wave of sadness, or a song that was played at their funeral starting up in a quiet café. It can feel as if your loved one is reaching out through the airwaves to share a memory and let you know they are near.
In our modern world of streaming music and algorithms, we may hear our favorite songs more often. Yet, when a song plays at a moment of emotional significance, it can feel like a perfectly timed wink from the universe. The coincidence itself feels meaningful, a form of synchronicity, a term coined by psychologist Carl Jung to describe meaningful coincidences.
Actionable Practice: Create a memorial playlist of songs that remind you of your loved one. Play it when you are missing them or when you want to feel connected. This is a beautiful, intentional way to honor their memory and invite that feeling of closeness into your day.
5. Seeing Meaningful Numbers or Symbols
Do you find yourself repeatedly seeing certain numbers, like 111, 444, or a sequence that was significant to your loved one, like their birthday or anniversary? Or perhaps you keep seeing specific symbols—hearts in the clouds, butterflies, or cardinals. Cardinals, in particular, are often seen as visitors from the spirit world, bringing messages of love and hope. These recurring symbols can feel like a private code between you and your loved one.
Our brains are wired to recognize patterns, and once we start looking for a particular number or symbol, we tend to see it more often. This is a natural cognitive process. However, that doesn’t diminish the comfort these sightings can bring. The magic is in the personal meaning you assign to them. Seeing a cardinal land on your windowsill can be a beautiful reminder of your loved one’s vibrant spirit, and that is a gift.
Actionable Practice: The next time you go for a walk, do so with a gentle intention to notice the beauty around you. Don’t strain to look for a sign. Simply be open. Notice the shapes of the clouds, the color of the birds, the way the light falls. This practice of mindfulness can help you feel more connected to the world around you and, in turn, to the memory of your loved one.
6. Unexplained Electrical Phenomena
Lights that flicker, a television or radio that turns on or off by itself, or a phone that rings with no one on the other end are experiences that many people report after a loved one passes. The theory in many spiritual circles is that spirits have an energy that can more easily interact with and manipulate electrical devices. These events often happen around significant dates and can seem to stop you in your tracks, feeling like a direct and playful attempt to get your attention.
Of course, there are often logical explanations for these occurrences, such as a power surge, faulty wiring, or a technical glitch. But when a light flickers in the room just as you say your loved one’s name aloud, it’s hard to dismiss the feeling of connection. The key is to notice how the event makes you feel—if it brings comfort and a smile, then it is serving a beautiful purpose.
Safety Cue: If electrical issues are persistent or seem hazardous (like sparking or smoke), please contact a qualified electrician. Your physical safety is paramount. A sign from a loved one should bring peace, not create a dangerous situation.
7. A Sudden Feeling of Presence or Comfort
Sometimes, a sign isn’t something you see or hear, but something you feel. It might be a sudden, overwhelming wave of peace that washes over you during a difficult moment. You might feel a gentle touch on your shoulder, a warmth beside you in an empty room, or simply an unexplainable sense that you are not alone. This internal, sensory experience can be one of the most powerful and convincing signs for people who are grieving.
These feelings can be understood as a form of self-soothing, a beautiful psychological response our own minds can generate to bring us comfort when we need it most. They can also be interpreted as a direct spiritual connection. In either case, these moments are a profound gift. They are an experience of love, whether from an external source or from the deep well of love that resides within you.
Actionable Practice: When you feel this sense of presence, try not to question it right away. Simply stop what you are doing, close your eyes, and breathe into the feeling. Acknowledge it silently or out loud: “Thank you. I feel you. I love you.” Allowing yourself to be fully present with the experience can deepen its comforting impact.
8. Animals Behaving Unusually
Many stories of afterlife signs involve animals. A butterfly that lands on your hand and stays for an unusual length of time, a bird that persistently taps on your window, or a deer that stands calmly and looks at you in your backyard. Sometimes, a family pet may seem to react to a presence that you cannot see, perhaps by staring at your loved one’s favorite chair or purring at an empty space. Animals are often seen as being more sensitive to energies that humans cannot perceive.
Whether you believe animals are acting as messengers or are simply behaving in their own mysterious ways, these encounters can feel incredibly special and personal. The interaction breaks the routine of everyday life and invites you into a moment of wonder and connection.
Actionable Practice: If you have an unusual encounter with an animal, take a moment to observe it with curiosity and gratitude. Notice its colors, its movements, and the feeling it evokes in you. You might journal about it later, reflecting on any memories or thoughts of your loved one that came to mind during the encounter.
9. Meaningful Coincidences or Synchronicity
Synchronicity is the experience of two or more events that are seemingly unrelated but occur together in a meaningful way. For example, you might be struggling with a decision, and you open a book to a random page that contains the perfect piece of advice. Or you might be thinking of your loved one with a heavy heart, and a friend you haven’t spoken to in years calls at that exact moment to share a happy memory of them. These events can feel too perfect to be random chance.
They can feel like a gentle nudge from your loved one, guiding you or simply letting you know that the universe is supporting you. These moments of alignment can help restore a sense of trust and wonder, especially when grief has left you feeling disconnected and lost. They remind us that our lives are woven with threads of meaning that we don’t always see.
Actionable Practice: A 7-Day Synchronicity Journal. For one week, keep a small notebook with you. At the end of each day, write down any small, meaningful coincidences you noticed. It could be as simple as thinking of a friend and then receiving a text from them. This practice can help you become more attuned to the meaningful connections in your life, fostering a sense of wonder and gratitude.
