When to Seek More Support
Navigating grief on your own is possible, but you do not have to. There are times when the weight of loss is too heavy to carry alone, and seeking professional support is an act of strength and self-care. It is important to know the signs that suggest you might benefit from more structured help from a therapist, counselor, or support group.
If you find that your grief feels stuck, and the intense, acute pain is not softening at all over a long period, it may be time to reach out. This is particularly true if you are experiencing persistent feelings of hopelessness or a belief that life is no longer worth living. If thoughts of harming yourself arise, it is critical to seek help immediately. Your life is valuable, and support is available.
Pay attention to significant and lasting changes in your daily functioning. Are you having extreme difficulty sleeping, or are you unable to get out of bed? Has your appetite changed dramatically, leading to significant weight loss or gain? Are you unable to perform basic tasks at home or at work? Are you increasingly isolating yourself from everyone, even those you trust? These can be signs that your grief has become intertwined with something more, like clinical depression, and a professional can help you sort through it.
Finally, if you find yourself relying heavily on unhealthy coping mechanisms, such as excessive alcohol use, substance abuse, or other risky behaviors, it is a clear signal that you need a healthier support system. A licensed therapist, particularly one specializing in grief and bereavement, can provide you with tools and a safe space to process your pain in a constructive way. Grief support groups can also be incredibly healing, connecting you with others who truly understand what you are going through.
You can find general mental health information at the American Psychological Association (APA) and the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH).
Crisis and support resources are available via SAMHSA and the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.). If you are outside the U.S., please look for equivalent local resources.
For additional resources on navigating life changes and well-being as you age, the National Institute on Aging (NIA) is a helpful source of information.
